In this article we list the 25 U.S. cities with the highest percentage of unfaithful husbands. Click to skip ahead and see the top 10 cities with the most unfaithful husbands.
Infidelity is a phenomenon, more frequent than ever before. It seems that the vast majority of us will be in one of the roles of this unfortunate triangle during our lifetime, and some in more roles. Unfortunately, there is not a guarantee that a relationship will be monogamous. Monogamy is not guaranteed by marriage vows, our desires, or even the love we feel for our partner. For all those who are getting married today or some other type of monogamous relationship, it seems that the question is no longer whether they will experience some extramarital attraction through living together, but when they will experience it.
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What is exactly infidelity? Some people think that is wrong for their partner to do the following: flirts with a person of the opposite sex, discuss things of a sexual nature with a person of the opposite sex, spends time with a member of the opposite sex, has sexual contact with someone other than his/her partner, talk or correspond online (via email, SMS) with a person of the opposite sex, sharing personal views, thoughts, feelings, and emotions, becomes emotionally attached or even best friends with a person of the opposite sex. This list could be even longer depending on the person compiling it. Although, some couples would not have problems with any of the above behaviors. Some couples think its okay to have sex with other people. So as an answer to the question of why men cheat, they don’t see sex as an answer. For more couples, all of the above is simply unacceptable. The only way to define cheating and infidelity is a personal feeling. When someone violates their partner’s expectations, there is only one emotional outcome – their partner feels betrayed and rejected.
Infidelity for one night most often occurs as a result of a combination of circumstances and is often the result of an impulsive decision. It most often occurs on business trips or a similar type of short absences from home. Sometimes it happens to a person you know before, but most often it happens to a stranger. In the background of this type of infidelity, we most often find reasons such as drunkenness, curiosity, pity, and even decency. It is most often an isolated incident that mostly never happens again and that does not carry a significant emotional charge. Unlike this type of infidelity, infidelity includes strong and varied emotions, such as intense thinking about that person, trusting that person regarding intimate things; feeling lost when cannot be in contact with that person, expressed empathy and care towards that person, and a feeling of joy and fulfillment when spending time together.
Unlike these two types of infidelity, parallel life involves the long-term development of an unfaithful relationship, without leaving the marital relationship. At the same time, the unfaithful partner feels little or nothing connected with the spouse and most often sees the relationship exclusively through obligations, legal, property, or parental. A relationship with a third person often serves precisely to fill in the gaps in a marital relationship.
What are the main reasons for infidelity? There is no single cause of man’s Infidelity. It happens for many different reasons, most of which have nothing to do with marriage but with the personal reasons of the unfaithful person. That is why it most often happens in periods of increased life demands and increased stress, such as the birth of a child, a change of job, job loss, and so on. This is the opposite of what many people think of infidelity, which is that the main and most common cause of infidelity is a bad marriage. Interestingly, more than 50 percent of men and 30 percent of women who have been unfaithful evaluate their marriage as happy, which is confirmed by research that says that a person can feel a strong sense of attachment to a spouse, and still feel strong attraction and infatuation with another person.
How men “choose” a mistress? They see this “other person” as someone mysterious, seductive who enters their lives with lightning speed and knocks them off. The first choices are their co-workers, their close personal friends, neighbors, spouse’s girlfriends…and it makes sense. Once there is friendship, other feelings will easily develop.
There is one very widespread prejudice, and that is that women cheat because of emotions, and men because of sex. However, the vast majority of infidelities involve emotions, for both men and women. What they may differ in is that men will talk more, when they talk about infidelity, about the sexual aspect of infidelity, and women about the emotional aspect, but that is irrelevant.
“He cheats because he is not satisfied with what he got at home” – How many times have you heard such assessments? Man and infidelity seem to go hand in hand. But what if it turns out that “genetic infidelity” and the sex-hungry eyes of men are just an ordinary myth?
According to the US General Social Survey (GSS), 20% of men and 13% of women have had an affair while married. Many relevant kinds of research showed that modern women are at least equal cheaters with the men. Infidelity is the biggest reason for divorce in the USA, according to the American Psychological Association (APA). Also, according to a Gallup survey more than half of partners will divorce if they found out their spouses were involved in an extramarital affair.
We made our list ranking the cities using the divorce rates. We only considers cities with a population of at least 300,000. The data is sourced from U.S. Census’ 2019 tables. We assumed that infidelity is the main cause for divorce in these cities and used the percentage of divorced women as our ranking criteria. Talking about the subject, take a look at our lists of the 15 Most Adulterous, Unfaithful Countries with Highest Cheating Rates in the World and 25 Cities with the Most Unfaithful Wives. Let’s now take a look at the top cities with the most unfaithful husbands.
25. Portland, Oregon
The city famous for good food, coffee, beer, easy-going nature, charming neighborhoods, summer weather has a 6.7% divorce rate. This nice city has all conditions for men to cheat on their spouse.
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